I’m sure you’ve heard the saying:, “It’s the squeaky wheel that gets oiled.” This metaphor explains how those who loudly communicate their wants and needs tend to get more attention and care than those who keep quiet.
Now, overly squeaky people can get annoying. We all know someone who isn’t shy about oversharing all the latest hardships and drama in their life. Without self-awareness and tact, this person tends to dominate every conversation and make it all about them.
However, there are those who don’t squeak at all. Would never squeak. Would never want anyone to know they needed help or support or encouragement. And so, naturally, the rest of us don’t notice. We aren’t aware that they need attention and care so they often don’t get any. Consequently, they suffer in silence and isolation.
And that’s not good either.
There’s got to be some kind of balance, wouldn’t you say?
Scripture teaches us both to avoid complaining (“Stop squeaking so loud!”) and to bear one another’s burdens (“It’s okay to squeak a little!”). After all, no one can help bear your burden if no one even knows you have a burden.
If you are a reluctant squeaker, this is for you.
I want you to know that it would feel like an honor to your friends to have you open up to them in this way. It shows that you truly respect and value them as friends. Friends like to be trusted and friends like to help.
I want you to know it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to let friends know that you’re in a tough season. To confess that you’re struggling. To admit that life is hard right now.
I want you to know it’s possible to admit all that and still be grateful. It’s possible to confess your need and still declare that God is good. It’s possible to desire encouragement and still resolutely trust in the sovereignty of God.
I want you to know it’s possible to squeak, and get oiled, and be strong all at the same time.
It’s okay to squeak!
